Movement & Musings 14
Week of June 2nd!
01: Let’s Move - link to this weeks recorded flow
34 mins - I did this one outside a treat!! a little breath a little core a little movement.
02: Song I ran into the ground this week
slower and moodier than the last few weeks
03: Article/Essay I read this week
Nobody knows how to be friends anymore || by Halima Jibril for Dazed
Do you tell your friends you love them?? or give them squeezes?? The intimacy you share with friends in private vs in public? This article goes through examples of actors/actresses and how costars are never allowed to be just friends the public doesn’t buy it, it must simply be more than friendship with how they act on and off camera.
Halima speaks about theatre kids and the friendships that are created within theatre and show bizzzz… I was never a theatre kid but I do feel passionate about creating and sustaining loving friendships and I like how this opinion essay speaks on it.
My highlights:
This approach to love is all about challenging one’s beliefs about love, ownership, and autonomy.
we should reject describing our friends as family as it reduces the value of friendship. “To diminish its value, deep friendship is either sexualised (‘they must be gay’) or reconnected to kinship (sisterhood, brotherhood, fraternity) to cancel the presumption of homosexuality” or any sexuality, ”and go back to the family.”
Friends can and should be deeply intimate with one another. Life is too short for us not to touch, hold, and even kiss our friends as much as we can. To restrict this type of intimacy, and permit it only in monogamous relationships, is to deny our loved ones and ourselves what American philosopher Michael Hardt describes as “red love”.
Do I love to indulge in gossip related to co star dating theories, sure (I will always love you Daisy and Paul) but I also like to indulge in conversation on friendship.
This essay reminded me of bell hooks book All About Love - where she wrote on the role of platonic friendship in your life and the support and meaning it provides in the context of life.
I struggled a lot with friendship and maintaining friendships all throughout my 20s (especially early 20s), and I think it had a lot to do with my view on love both in regard to friendship and maybe even more so self love. But really we should love our friends more, and when we learn to love our friends it has a sneaky way of helping us learn to love ourselves.
04: Rabbit hole of the week: Golf
Last week I posted the below pic on my instagram story, and got so many people (as in maybe 2 people lol) asking why I don’t believe in golf.
So with that this week’s rabbit hole / soap box is on why I don’t believe in golf.
First and foremost I think it is waste of space and land. On average a golf course is 150 acres 🤯 think about how much clearing of space and nature that has to be done to make space for a course! Not only deforestation of an area but also natural habitat for animals. On top of that.. the water used to maintain a golf course is ungodly, AND typically courses are using chemicals to keep the greens green which then could run off into other water sources, that animals could then could drink etc. OMG.
It wouldn’t be fair for me to bash golf and fail to tell you the time I went to the Memorial golf tournament with my dad and yelled “YOU THE MAN TIGER” while I followed Tiger Woods around for 18 holes in 2013. And I had really fun time.
A little cognitive dissonance I suppose. Anywaysssss thanks for reading a mini golfing rant lol.
I will not be in your inbox next week — I will be OOO… newsletter #15 in your inbox on June 16th.
xx kaitlyn